Tear Drops

No one ever said breakups were easy, but if I said there wasn’t a spectrum to them, I’d be lying. 

It’s only natural to conclude acts of lying and cheating are the most painful ways to have our hearts broken, but in reality, this isn’t the case. It is hard to say that you don't love the person anymore. It is hard to hear that even the person doesn't love you anymore. 

Nothing actually matters in all those ups and downs. What matters the most is priorities. 

No matter how busy or how hard things you have been trough the particular person matter in everything. “There is a particular sort of betrayal that is more insidious and equally corrosive to trust. In fact, this betrayal usually happens long before the other ones. I’m talking about the betrayal of disengagement. Of not caring. Of letting the connection go. Of not being willing to devote time and effort to the relationship.” 

 As someone who has experienced a multitude of hurt from cheating, lying, manipulation, ghosting and everything in between, I support this claim wholeheartedly. “When people we love or with whom we have a deep connection stop caring, stop paying attention, stop investing, and stop fighting for the relationship,” Brown writes, “trust begins to slip away and hurt starts seeping in.” Just know you are not crazy, despite how you may feel. Know every ounce of pain you’re feeling from that person who got up and disappeared is normal (even if you technically weren’t in a relationship). 

 Remember a lack of reason does not make it your fault, your blame to take or your solution to find.