Manipulations or Disappointments

    A manipulative relationship is one-sided and unbalanced, advancing the goals of the manipulator at the expense of the person being manipulated. These relationships become troubled over time. Have you ever had a partner/someone who was so in your head that all of a sudden, you woke up and realized you were willingly doing things you'd never usually agree to? It can make you feel crazy like you're not in control of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. And it can go on forever before you realize it's happening. 

IF IT’S TOO COMPLICATED TO EXPLAIN, IT MAY BE TOO COMPLICATED TO SUSTAIN. 

    

    The distance of this relationship is one that carries a lot of pain, patience, and frustration, along with it. This relationship is fully sustainable if you live close enough to drive to one another and plan on moving in together down the road. You lack the bonding that comes from physical touch. This charm between you can also lead to jealousy and straying eyes. That’s not to say you can’t make this relationship work, but it certainly takes a certain personality type to have the patience for it. 

    Maybe it's just overthinking. Overthinking. One of the many demons that keep us awake at night. We’ve all had those moments. Sometimes I just felt like you just left me hanging. Stop looking for hidden meanings. Sometimes “K” really just means “K.” Searching through every response looking for what it really means could be the root of your problem. If you try to find the significance behind everything your partner says, odds are you’ll crawl into a mental black hole filled with dark thoughts that probably aren’t even true. Did I overthink every time? My insecurities are causing me to overthink every time. Yes, there’s nothing wrong with bringing concerns to you and laying them all on the table in an open discussion. You’ll probably come out of the conversation breathing a huge sigh of relief. But then, what else afterward? It's like back to the beginning. It can be easy to fall into the belief that your partner’s mood, attitude, or responses are a direct reflection of something you did, but a lot of the time that isn’t the case. 

    Frustrations, anxiety, and annoyances can cause people to lash out in other ways, depending on how your partner handles his or her emotions; the root of what they say and how they act may be something entirely different. Sometimes I wonder if you care? Sometimes I wonder if you're interested. It hurts sometimes not knowing how you felt towards me. I'm trying to find a distraction. Finding a distraction can help ease my mind for a Lil. Shall I just try dating several people at once to avoid focusing on any negative thoughts and relieve some of the pressure? I really don't know. It's so confusing. Sometimes waiting for you it hurts knowing that you might not text or call like you used to. Sometimes we create our own heartbreaks through expectation. You will end up really disappointed if you think people will do for you as you do for them. Not everyone has the same heart as you. It’s amazing how quickly your mood can change, how deep your heart can sink, and how much one person can affect you. I’m sad, hurt, angry, mad, disappointed. But you know what? I will put on a happy face and move on. It will hurt but I will survive. It hurts to let go, but sometimes it hurts more to hold on. It’s sad when you realize you aren’t as important to someone as you thought you were. After being disappointed so many times, you start to lose hope in everything.